Why Me?

Ok so it's one of those nights, that I am not tired and decided to just go on about my life...

Well I need to give you a little background as to why the tittle of this post, as far as I can remember my purpose in life was suposed to be an amazing mother. So my journey began Dec. 13th 2003 when I married my eternal companion. We took a year to be just the 2 of us and settle our differences. We started trying to add to our family exactly one year later, Dec. 2004. I though that since I was young things would just happen very fast, so 3 months later I was pregnant. We celebrate and told everyone the big news, just so that 13 weeks later we found out that there was no heart beat, and my world came crashing down. BOY THAT WAS HARD! But finally April of 2006 I became the mother of a Miracle little boy. We tried again 2 years later just so that the same thing would happen, after finding out we were expecting twins we found out we were loosing them too. But we didn't give up, we tried again, and in March 2009 I once again became a mother, to Stephanie. People everywhere think our fanily is complete just because I have a boy and a girl. The thing is, I don't think we are done. I know there are more babies who are suposed to come to our family.

So we were taking one year break before we attemped baby #3, when we found out in Dec, 2009 that we were expecting again. There was a little bit of mixed feeling towards this one, for the first time it was a surprize and not planned. So it has to work out right? NOPE I lost that baby too. So here is where the question came once again, WHY ME?

From the first time it happened to the third, that is one question I could not figure out. Till now, at first I though it was punishment for something i've done. And I received an answer to that, no matter what I have done wrong in my life Christ died for me so that I would not have to suffer for it. So that is not it. So maybe I am not worthy of it right? Well, if I was not worthy of being a mother than I would not have any, how can I be worthy of having 2 but not 3? So that is silly too. So Why? Well, being a mother is everything to me. It is my prupose in life. I did not come to this world to be a lawyer, or a nurse, or a career woman. I came here to be a tool in Gods hand by creating a raising children, and leading them back to him. And the best part is... I love doing it. I may not bee doing it in a way that everyone agrees, but I am doing it the way that I know how and how I think it needs to be for my children. If I was going to law school I would have to pass the bar exam to become a lawyer, and for any other career one is tested to see how badly they want it and how well they are prepared for it.

The fact that I keep being tested, on the same thing just reasures me, of what my purpose is. Heavenly Father wants to know how bad do I want it, and if I am prepared for it. Also he is reminding me, that, control freak here cannot control everything. That is something I really have no control over it. AKA 5 pregnancies and 2 babies. And let me tell you, it drives me crazy sometimes

This time around I was able to step back and look at other peoples trials, especially because of all the things my sister is going through. And I realize that we are all tested in that wich we want most in life. Things cannot just be handed over to us, so when I look around and ask, well how come that 15 year old can become pregnant and have a baby, when it is not that easy for me? Well that is just it, my trials are not her trials. My strengths are not her strengths, and although I still sit on the shower some days crying and feeling sorry for myself. I know that, things are not hapening to break me. But to build me up to the mother that Heavenly Father knows I need to be.

It is days like these that I need to learn to step back, and REALLY count my blessings. Pick myself up and try again. After all isn't that what we tell our children to do? So why would God not teach His children the same principles? I don't know how many children I will have, or how many more miscarriages. All I know is... that this is my brick to carry through life. Although I am not there yet, I am learning to REALLY rely in Christ and to trust him. It is hard when I feel like the one thing i was meant to do, my stupid body can't do it right. Or when everyone is excited and tell the world their big news, I keep waiting to loose it and not telling anyone. The one thing I really like about it is... After I loose one baby I trully enjoy every moment of the next, morning sickness and heart burns, and bathroom visits, and back aches are welcomed. Because you really never know how good you have it till you don't have it anymore.

So I guess... If you ever ask yourself WHY ME? Just step back and recognize the blessings you do have, and although it is not easy just try, try again. Heavenly Father will recognize your effords and compensate you for it.

I am always scared of the unknown, but not afraid to take that step towards it.
We'll see what happens next...

P.S. I just have to say how Grateful I am to my Eternal Companion, he has been my rock through all of this, we have in our 6 years of marriage been tried and tried. And it is conforting to know that we have each other. That he along with my Father in heaven will carry me when I cannot take another step. I love him, and the best decision I ever made was to walk in the temple doors with Him.

Drummer Boy

On the 19h of Dec, we had our Christmas Party. While there all the primary kids were getting ready for their Nativity Skit. While walking ion the hall some one said that they needed a drummer boy, I asked Spencer if he wanted to do it. He of course said no. So you can only imagine my Surprise when he was the first one to come in... (which explaines why I don't have any pics. I was not ready for it.) He came in hitting his little drum and did so good the whole time. I am sooooo proud of him.

Stephanie Update...

My little princess is 9 1/2 months old, and I am trying to find out where the time has gone. She is so big, and her big beautiful brown eyes continues to steel the hearts of those who know her. She went in for her 9 month check up in the middle of Dec, and here are her Stats:

She weigh in at 19 pounds, putting her in the 60% for her age.

She is 29 1/2 inches long, she has grown 10 inches in 9 months. putting her in the 90%.

The Dr. said it is very unusual for babies to grow this much so fast. She is also cute, she waves bye bye, and claps to patty cakes, and she no longer drags herself on the floor, she crawls like a big girl. On Dec. 24th she pulled herself up for the first time, and now she will walk from furniture to furniture. and if you put her standing on a wall she will take 3-4 steps to get to you. I found out yesterday that her New Years resolution is to grow some teeth. Four to be exact... her top 4 teeth are coming in, and she is NOT a HAPPY child. She wants me to hold her the whole day. She said Mama for the first time on the 24th also. She said Dada for a while, and Bu-bu witch she says when her brother comes around. So I think that is what she calls him. Today she fell from the stairs. I did not even know she could climb. Well that is it. Too much too fast. But she still the best baby I have ever seen. She still smiles for no reason at everyone.

A Chrlie Brown Christmas

In the beginning of December we had a play date, we went to see Charlie Brown on Ice at the Opry Mill Mall, it was soooo Cold in there. I think they said it was -4 Degrees in there. But all of the sculptures that you see are carved out of ICE. Spencer's favorite part was the Ice Slide we had a fun day. Too bad daddy was not ab;e to go with us.

Halloween.

I know I am late, AGAIN life has been crazy lately. But here are the pics from our halloween.

New skills

I have to update before I forget, Stephanie has started to army crawl on Nov, 1st and now she is doing pretty good. She drags her little belly every where. And on Nov. 5th she got her first tooth. front bottom left. She has been great, no fever or fussing if I had not been checking we would have never know that she got a tooth.

Our Last project of the year...

We started to build a deck, and we are soooo close to being done. We designed it on paper, than we went out there and measured and put posts and now that the frame is done. We realized we may have gone a little overboard. As everyone who comes and gives us a hand say, "it's massive." Here are the pics of our progress. So far.

The "help" (aka Jeff Dean) playing some baseball, while Borja Worked...

This is the left side of the deck

This is the right side of the deck

Jared came up and helped even on the rain.